A curated collection of reflections, resources, and recommendations
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Infertility can feel overwhelming and full of expectations—both internal and external. Social media, well-meaning friends, and fertility “rules” can make you feel like you have to do everything “right” to succeed. But the truth is: you get to decide what works for you. You don’t have to follow any piece of advice or ritual. It’s […]
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If you’re a perfectionist, you’ve probably spent your life working hard, setting goals, and checking every box along the way. Usually, that’s worked: you studied, you planned, you persevered — and you got the outcome you wanted. But infertility doesn’t play by those rules. No matter how much effort you put in, how carefully you […]
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I’m a psychologist who has curated this list of books to help you heal, reflect, and grow during life’s toughest times. The phrase “dark night of the soul” comes from spiritual tradition and describes those seasons when life feels unbearably heavy- when meaning, joy, and clarity seem out of reach. Put simply, it’s a kind […]
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Disclaimer: Different kinds of support are effective for different people. Some may genuinely find comfort in gratitude practices, hopeful affirmations, or positive mindsets. This post is written for those who feel dismissed or hurt by those messages, and who need their full emotional experience validated. What Is Toxic Positivity? Toxic positivity is the belief that […]
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Jealousy is one of those emotions no one wants to admit to- but if you’re going through infertility, it shows up often. Seeing a pregnant belly at the coffee shop, scrolling past yet another announcement on Instagram, or hearing a friend’s excited news can trigger that familiar sting behind your eyes and heaviness in your […]
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The Two Week Wait (TWW)- that anxious stretch after ovulation or an embryo transfer- can be one of the most overwhelming parts of IVF or IUI treatment. Feeling anxious, restless, and uncertain is completely normal. Here are some tips to help you avoid common mistakes that often increase stress during this time. Don’t Expect Calm, […]
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Most infertility coaches promise to “help you get your baby”- through manifestation, positive thinking, eliminating stress, supplements, diet changes, or switching to non-toxic products. My approach is different: fresh, realistic, and rooted in existential truth. I’m here to help you find peace, life satisfaction, and joy regardless of how your IVF journey ends. Here’s the […]
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Attachment Theory in Childhood As seventeenth-century philosopher Baruch Spinoza once said, “All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love”. Originally, attachment theory was designed to explain the nature of child-caregiver bonds in infancy. Attachment theorist John Bowlby’s primary assertion was that human survival depended […]
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Tara Brach Guided Meditations
Mindful Movement Guided Meditations
Yoga with Adriene
Practices for Grounding & Regulation
Attached // Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Hold Me Tight // Sue Johnson
Mating in Captivity // Esther Perel
On Love, Attachment, and Intimacy
Radical Acceptance // Tara Brach
Self-Compassion // Kristin Neff
Lighter // Yung Pueblo
Mindfulness & Self-Compassion
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents // Lindsay C. Gibson
When the Body Says No // Gabor Mate with Daniel Mate
No Bad Parts // Richard Schwartz
Developmental Trauma and Emotional Healing
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples
How to Meet Yourself: The Workbook for Self Discovery
Guided Reflection & Self-Discovery
Bookmarked for You
Words, reflections, and practices I return to often
